"The degree to which you can submit to your own Love, is the degree to which you can stand to be loved in relationship with another.

On my Aphrodite Retreat in just a few weeks time in Wales, we will be exploring these themes."

All of life is a relationship. We are primarily in relationship with ourselves. We are are in an eternal relationship with God, Universe, Higher Source of Love.

We take our false beliefs about separation from the Source of All Love within us into relationships with others. We take our heart-wounds and fears of getting broken open into relationships with others. We take our terror of laying our Souls raw, bare, naked and vulnerable into our relationships with others. And then we close down in a false attempt to protect ourselves from the exposure of all the love inside us; what we yearn for, crave, deeply desire and ache for.

Our old stories and fears tell us that if we barricade our hearts within layers of defence we will be safe.

There is no safety in defending the heart. All that happens is that we cut off the flow of love from inside, and we send a powerful message outwards to the Universe that we are not worthy of deep and intimate connection. We may even attract exactly what we most fear, simply because we are putting so much energy into repelling it.

We attract that which we deny.

When we are denying the Love that we Are, and how love can only increase, not diminish, us - we create our own pain.

Other people trigger pain in us, but they truthfully do not create it. Other people can only trigger our own deeply-held pain - the pain of shutting off from the higher consciousness of love; the love that made us, gives us breath, gives us energy, gives us purpose for being.

What we all -without exception - want most profoundly is to love and be loved.

We want to be seen, heard, accepted for our transgressions and mistakes, forgiven and lifted up in light. We want to share our truth, we want to honour the divine in each other, we want to look into the eyes of God when we meet.

We want to lay down our defences and strip ourselves bare. We want to just stop pretending, stop exhausting ourselves with the lie that we are unloveable, flawed, unworthy. We want to stop waiting for perfection in unattainable, ego-led form.

We want to stop putting it off until some unreachable day when suddenly another person comes to fulfil all our dreams for our own hearts.

You cannot put it off. You are Love, Now. You can give Love, Now. You can be Love, Now. You are receiving Love, Now.

When you open your Soul to the truth of Love - that it is always here, and will not abandon you - you realise that even within relationships with others you so often abandon your Self.

Come back to your Self. Make your Self whole again. It starts with vowing to never leave your Self. It starts with making a promise to all your own dreams, your own desires, your own yearnings, your own cravings for love.

This love is You.

You can share it with others, and yet you must know that every other person is only a reflection of you.

The degree to which you can submit to your own Love, is the degree to which you can stand to be loved in relationship with another.

On my Aphrodite Retreat in just a few weeks time in Wales, we will be exploring these themes.

Love. Connection. Intimacy with the Self, growing through intimacy with others. Healing the old stories. Letting the heart lead us through pathways of thorns to gardens of roses. Being truthful, being witnessed, being real.

If you would like to sign up to spend a long healing weekend with me, in sacred space, in love and safety, then this weekend is for you

All of Life is Relationship. Healing your relationship with your Self and the Universe will transform your relationships with others.


I'm delighted to invite you to my early 2017 event, The Aphrodite Intensive. This retreat is perfectly placed just before Valentines Day. It is designed to support you in the quest for deep intimacy. This is so vital as we are entering the Age of Light where we are required to create partnerships that are conscious and growth-focused. 

Women-only and men-only circles will also be a part of this retreat. The male circles will be held by a trusted, experienced male facilitator. The female circles will be held by me. 

Past Lives of the Sacred Feminine Heart - May 1st at MBS Wellbeing, London

I'm excited to be holding a 2-hour workshop on May 1st at the MindBodySpirit Wellbeing Festival

Tickets are on sale now through the image link above. I look forward to seeing you there! 

The Deep Woman


The deep woman channels pure source energy. The deep woman has come here to change the structure of existing forms. The deep woman has come to bring the earth back to a conscious awareness of creative and spiritual power called feminine light. The deep woman is a force of natural radiance that cannot be stopped.


The deep woman has moved beyond craving material and external fixes for security or fulfilment. The deep woman has found, over countless years of breathing open, that she has been invited by Life to dig into the depths of existence.


The deep woman has to confront, meet and face what presents as illusion on this earth plane. She has to learn to leave the mind-space and return to her body. She has to keep going deeper, deeper and deeper into her sacred core until the purity is restored there.


She has to pull out all the old magic that has been forgotten and disused. She has to walk a path of stones before she comes to her fresh garden. She has to remind her beleaguered heart that the wisdom lies in her body, her feelings and her never-ending, flowing cycles of energy.


She has to rise above her weariness again, and again, and again. She has to persevere, remain, stay alive even when she wants to leave. She has to keep going. Every day, every hour, every breath.


She has to keep breathing, because her deep nature tells her that the earth needs her breath in order to keep turning. Her breath informs her that she is connected to angels, to radiant ones, to illumined ones, to ascended ones, and to the Great Goddess.


The deep woman reaches a point in her journey when she must clear out on a very profound level.


She must refuse to collude with the sleeping masses, the TV and media-drugged, emotionally-blocked and hardened, ego-led world. She takes herself away from the superficial, the material, the external forms of fake, glittering nourishment. She strips herself of outer accoutrements and gets down to the bare bones. She begins to live with the wolves, the moon, the trees, the soil, the ocean and the stars again. She takes up residence in her inner temples, tends to them lovingly, is captivated by their Light, and promises fervently to never again leave herself.


The deep woman finds herself regularly immersed in silence, as this is her eternal home.


The deep woman discovers an aching desire for unguarded intimacy with all life.


The deep woman seeks out only truth, because she IS truth at it's very essence.


The deep woman rarely speaks out in haste, and eschews gossip. She has cultivated a richly-textured spiritual awareness and presence. She chooses words and ways of communicating extremely carefully, as she knows that to be deeply authentic is the greatest gift a woman can give.


The deep woman carves out a wide space for herself on this planet now.


She nestles herself into the earth, connects her chakras to the grid-points of Light, and opens her ancient womb to the Goddess.


She allows all the divine information held in her cells to radiate and lead the way.


She connects with her womb and it's precious blood.


She looks into other's eyes as a sacred practice.


She touches others and lets them know that they are safe.


She makes love with her fears: she melts open with her fears, enters fully into them, and gives them permission to move through her body.


She gives great priority to the magic held in the Third Eye.



The deep woman crosses thresholds that evolve consciousness. The movement of her life creates large-scale transformations.

She represents evolution of the Soul.


The deep woman has seen it all, witnessed it all, died over and over again to it.


She has birthed it all.


The deep woman is rarely acknowledged or named in our commercially-driven, deadened-soul world of external fixes and material gain.


The deep woman is an illumined dream of truth in a soporific, numbed, heart-hardened, adrenalin-fuelled, disconnected, fear-induced nightmare pretending to be Life.


She is love, melted and blazed open, in all it's forms. She is healing, patient and enduring. She is transformation, wildly courageous and over-and-over-again reborn.


She is the totality of nature, embodied in skin, bones, flesh and blood.


She moves her body with intention, speaks with resonance, places her awareness in the highest dimensions, and converses with the Mystery.


Deep women have spent eons walking in the forests, hidden in the mountains, swimming in the seas and praying in the temples.


They may not speak of these things directly, but know that all their experience is contained within the wondrous gaze from their eyes.


They can teach you a thing or two about life, about love, about how you spend your time here, and most importantly - about the gifts of your Soul.


Deep women walk among us, and thank God for them. The Goddess sent them here, to reclaim the deep life for everyone.


The Earth soaks them up and refuses to let them go now, as their vibrational brilliance and sacred profundity is as vital to sustaining Life on this planet as oxygen.


These women are embedded in the earth. They are most resolutely taken care of by the cosmos. They are prized jewels of the universe.


Deep women affect everyone they come into contact with.


Deep women are here to restore open presence, heart-wisdom, breath, blood, mystery and soul-listening to our planet.


Deep women are manna from heaven.


Deep women are the ancient, fragrant notes of Earth's song.


Deep women are called into emitting the frequencies of their beings, without reservation or hesitation, to stir the dulled memories of a blinded humanity that has lost it's way.


Take the hand of a deep woman, and you are making a promise to yourself. You are reminding yourself that this is the life you remember, and it is the one that matters most. Everything in your life will conspire to bring you into her aura once you are ready.


The intuitive life of a deep woman is rarely spoken of - but the daily sacred acts of these women are keeping the earth opening to possibility of new life.


The Deep Women hold the future of our planet in their earth-covered, compassionate and light-filled hands.

Copyright Sophie Bashford 2016

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