If You Choose To Love an Awakened Woman

If you choose to love an awakened woman, understand that you are entering into new, radical and challenging territory.

If you choose to love an awakened woman, you cannot stay asleep.

If you choose to love an awakened woman, every part of your Soul will be aroused, not just your sexual organs or even your heart.

Frankly, if you prefer a normal life, stick with a normal girl.

If you want a tame life, seek only a woman who has allowed herself to be tamed.

If you only want to dip your toe into the flowing waters of Shakti, stay with the safe, tamed woman who has not yet plunged into the wildness of the sacred feminine ocean.

It is comfortable to love a woman who has not yet activated her inner sacred powers, because she does not push your buttons.

She will not challenge you.

She will not press you into becoming your Highest Self.

She will not awaken the forgotten and numbed-out parts of your Spirit that urge you to remember that there is more to your Life here than this.

She will not look into your weary eyes and send a lightning bolt of Truth through your body, jolting you awake and stirring long-lost desires for Soul Love within you.

A safe, un-awakened woman will be wonderfully satisfying and soothing to your ego, heart, and body. She will walk quietly beside you and make you feel needed, responsible, like you are fulfilling your masculine role.

If this is enough for you then accept it, love her with all your heart, remain faithful to her and thank her daily for the gift of her mild, unthreatening feminine presence in your life.

If this is not enough for you – if your heart, body and spirit are only craving the ‘other kind of woman’, the Wild One – then know that you are on the cusp of soul-shifting transformation.

Know that you are making a serious choice with karmic consequences.

If you choose to step into the aura and body of a woman whose spiritual fires are blazing, you are accepting that you need a certain level of danger and risk in order to grow.

Once you begin to love a woman of this nature, you must accept total responsibility for the life-changes that will then ensue.

Your life will not be sleepily comfortable all the time. Your life will not allow you to stay stuck in old ruts and stagnant routines. Your life will take on a radically new flavour and scent.

You will be ignited by the presence of the Wild Feminine, and it will begin to send electric shockwaves of spiritual Light through your entire chakra system, attuning you to the Call of the Divine.

Choosing to be sexually and romantically-intimate with an awakened woman takes masculine courage to walk fearlessly into the Unknown. But it will reap rewards beyond your mind’s comprehension.

She will take you into undiscovered worlds of mystery and magic.

She will lead you, mesmerised and half-drunk with love, into the wild forests of sensual ecstasy and wonder.

She will show you sacred skies so full and burning with stars that you will start to wonder if you are still living on the same planet that you were born on.

She will break and tear you open so that your fierce, passionate heart drives you half-mad with longing. You will want to consume and penetrate her on every level so that your Masculine Essence can consume and penetrate the world – illuminating the Universe with your Devoted Love.

She will see you like you’ve never been seen before.

She will trust you.

She will appreciate you.

She will acknowledge your efforts to make her happy.

She will value everything good that you do, and everything good that you are.

She will not run from your darkness, because your darkness does not scare her.

She will embrace, kiss, caress and love you back to Life. She will speak words that your Soul understands. She will not punish you for your mistakes.

It is a monumental risk to love an awakened woman, because there is suddenly no place to hide. She sees everything therefore she can love you with a depth and presence that your heart and body have yearned for so hard, so long, so fiercely…it makes you wonder whether you have actually been alive for all the time that she has been away.

Loving a woman like this is a choice you make to start living with your Soul on Fire.

Your life will never be the same again once you’ve invited her energy in.

Take this risk on yourself, or step back, stay with the normal girl and accept a different, safer, more comfortable and somewhat calmer life.

Just make sure that if you choose the latter, you don’t spend the rest of your days with your eyes looking back over your shoulder, straining to see once again the hazy vision of Feminine Mystery that has now disappeared from view.

She has long gone..spiralling back up to the Stars, the distant Galaxies and the Heavens…from where She came.

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  1. Julia on July 21, 2020 at 6:12 pm

    OMG!!! I absolutely LOVE this piece. Thank you! <3

  2. Raquel on July 24, 2020 at 3:34 pm

    It has really made me cry. Thank you

  3. Patty campbell on November 29, 2020 at 3:49 pm

    Beautiful, delightful , I’m listening

    • Hilly on February 21, 2021 at 5:35 pm


  4. Angel on February 5, 2021 at 12:39 pm

    so beautiful … I share ..

    • Farhana on February 28, 2021 at 8:14 pm

      Beautiful. Thank you from this awakened woman who stands in the flame.

  5. Skay on March 24, 2021 at 12:24 pm

    Yes yes yes yes!!!!!!!

  6. Shawn on May 23, 2021 at 2:46 pm

    I wasn’t expecting such a eye opener. Here I stand awakened. I

  7. Ramona Abraham on May 25, 2021 at 8:31 pm

    This piece never gets old or boring reading and sharing. I shared it with a friend of mine and he said that he now understands better. So, thank you Sophie Bashford for publishing it.

  8. Umar on June 28, 2021 at 2:00 pm

    An amazing piece. Enlightening on so many levels… hopefully we can all relate. Thank you

  9. Jewels on October 24, 2021 at 3:39 am

    Amazing I felt this on all levels!!
    Beautiful! ✨

  10. Sarah-Jane on March 17, 2022 at 12:22 pm

    I can read this Beauty over and over again!!! I love to share it every time I come across a man, who is ready to step into the great wonders of Divine Feminine and her Divine Masculine

  11. Regina O on April 26, 2022 at 2:29 am

    This is so very precise and absolutely beautiful ❤️ Thank you Sophie for expressing this so eloquently

  12. Tony on May 30, 2022 at 7:32 am

    Is this from a book? If so what’s it called please ?

    • Sophie Bashford on May 30, 2022 at 5:07 pm

      Yes, it’s published in my book You Are a Goddess.

  13. Gary on February 23, 2023 at 11:11 pm

    A journey with this kind of woman is deeply challenging – but deliciously divine and rewarding beyond anything you can ever imagine. For both parties.

    The willingness to commit totally enables a seamless, sensual, spectacular dual journey that increasingly melts into ‘human singularity’ within an unshakeable and delicious energy space.

    That continually morphs and deepens. Requiring ongoing and total commitment.

    Which in turn unfurls an ever deepening never ending journey into new unexplored and unexpected spaces and places.

    Thank you for capturing this in words Sophie! And excuse my enthusiastic over-verbosity!

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